Sunday, June 19, 2016
Over the past 15 months, Scott has proven to be an extraordinary father. He goes in to work early every single day in the hopes of leaving on-time to pick up Jacob early from daycare. He takes Jacob to the park or pool, and feeds him dinner - all before I get home. I almost hate to admit this - because so many of my friends are envious - but he also does Jacob's bath and puts him to bed every single night. The most important factor in my "success" as a working-mom? A hands-on dad. I could not do this life without him. As important as the tactical, boots-on-the-ground work that Scott does to raise our son is the simple moments that make Jacob's childhood. Scott runs around with Jacob on his shoulders. He tickles him and rough-houses on the floor with him. He reads him books (the Giraffe book a million times a day!) and sings him songs. He explores the park with him, urges him to climb higher, pushes him on the swings, and takes him around the block on his tricycle. I have no doubt that Jacob will be a spectacular father someday - he's being modeled a version of fatherhood that is impossible to beat. Jacob's life is better for having Scott as his father.
A Father's Day post would be incomplete without a mention of my own beloved father. Shawn Steil was a stranger until I was 11. The exact moment he became my father (legally) was five years later, when he rose to the challenge, and adopted three father-less children who loved him. It took Scott and me almost 24 hours to settle on Jacob's name, but one thing we knew from the start - his middle name would be Steil, a name to formally tie him to his maternal grandfather, a man we hoped he'd grow to be like. In Jacob's first few weeks of life, my dad would take the "early early morning shift" - from about 5-8am - allowing the rest of the house some blessed sleep. He's been described as a "machine" by more than one person - his work ethic is second-to-none. (Famously, after his first half-marathon, he went on to hand-sand my floors in preparation for staining). He has literally transformed my house - but more importantly - our LIVES. The lights were turned on when Shawn Steil entered our lives.
Happy Father's Day to these tremendous men. Men who have shaped my life so significantly, and who I am lucky will also shape Jacob's. We love you.