As I was falling asleep last night, I had my iPhone in my hand and was browsing Facebook. Name after name, page after page, covered in red and equal signs and rainbows and “Pride”s. So many friends publicly throwing their support behind gay marriage. As I looked through my friend list, I was overwhelmed. Not just by the sheer volume (although that was overwhelming too) but by the individuals. A conservative friend, with a degree from a Catholic university. My step-sister. Friends of my moms. Friends who I met at Catholic high school. Friends that I met as a child and as an adult. Friends from work and friends from play. Friends of friends and neighbors and cousins.
The issue of “gay marriage” is one that divides us as a nation.
But it’s also one that unites us, as lovers of love and marriage, and lovers of humans – gay or straight.
I am not gay, but I am a gay ally. I have the right to marry whomever I choose (chose!) and I want that same right – that same civil right – for all adults.
It’s an issue that people are passionate about. I’ve stopped reading the comments on some posts about gay marriage because they infuriate me so much. (Particularly the argument “the bible says it’s wrong!”. The Bible also condemns dual-material fabrics, pork, and haircuts, yet we let those directions slide). But overall there is one thing that has become more and more clear: the tides are turning, and the opposition is losing, both momentum and the battle. There is no doubt in my mind that gay men and women will be granted this right, and soon. I’m not sure how the Supreme Court hearing will go, but it’s happening. It’s time.
I was talking recently with a friend, and we started discussing what we would do if our son or daughter told us that they were gay. And I don’t really have an answer… not because I haven’t thought about it, briefly, but because I hope to raise my family in such a way that my child wouldn’t need to “come out” to us in such a formal and direct way.
I guess the point of this post is to say that the tides are turning. Love and equality are winning. And while the battle isn’t over, the outcome is inevitable: gay adults will soon have the universal right to marriage. And not only is this what I want, I believe it's also what God wants.